Finding a caregiver doesn't have to be as scary as you think. Whether you are choosing to bring someone into your home or use a daycare setting, you need to know who your potential caregivers are and have the right to know.
Here are some tips that will help you get the answers you need to make the best decision when selecting a caregiver for your kids.
Start your search months in advance.
This will avoid stress and will build confidence in your choices. If a daycare is your choice, you may find that the more popular ones have waiting lists. Don't fall in the trap of being "grateful" for a space for your child. It is YOU that decides if THEY are worthy not the reverse.
Arrange for an initial interview.
The first meeting should ALWAYS be at their home or facility, regardless if the plan is for a caregiver to work out of your home. Your goal is to get to know them personally in a short period of time. By going to their environment, you will gain valuable insight into how they live. Don't bring baby yet.
The interview.
First, relax. You are in control. Make your expectations very clear. How you ask questions is crucial. Good questions encourage conversation and allow you to read between the lines. Write your questions down and bring them with you. Make note of the answers provided. This will help you evaluate each candidate later on.
Interview rules.
Avoid Did, Would, Do or Have to start a question.
Instead of asking: "Have you ever had to act in an emergency?" Ask: "What would you do if a fire broke out?" Open questions lead to discussion, avoiding vague "yes" and "no" one word answers
Don't answer the question yourself.
Don't ask, "Would you call 9-1-1 or would you grab the extinguisher in the kitchen?"
Let them give you the answer.
Use silence.
After she answers your question – pause.
Most people find silence uncomfortable and will almost always initiate further conversation. It it what a caregiver says to fill in the silence that is often most telling.
Call all references.
Ask the potential sitter for six references. After she gives them to you, ask her to narrow them down to the top three and call only the ones she did not select!
If the candidate passes this stage set a time for them to meet your baby. This is your opportunity to see your child interact with the caregiver.
Finally, review your notes and choose a caregiver who you feel is genuine, will love your baby and fits your parenting values.
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